I woke up this morning feeling really irritated. My whole body was contracted and the sweet, loving person I usually am naturally, could’ve probably bitten somebody’s head off. If I were going anywhere a “CAUTION” sign would have been appropriate.
I kind of (I say kind of more because I didn’t want it to be so) knew what was at the root of all that frustration and irritation.
I knew that analyzing the crap out of it and trying to “figure it out” was only going to get me more frustrated. I also knew that avoiding it would only give me temporary relief. What was I to do???
As if on cue, I opened a book (Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map) and the author, as if knowing of my plight, described my story exactly, not only that, she asked the question, “how do you want to feel? Hmmm… Good question!
“Well, I want to have harmony in this situation and let go of any sense of obligation and fear I’m creating here.” So if I were to have those things how would I feel?
Long pause… I waited for my heart to give me the feelings I was looking for. YES, that’s it! I want to feel happy and liberated!
The next step was to write down things I could do to anchor in these feelings. I thought of a few, including getting myself a new outfit and taking myself out on a date, but the one that really felt strong when held in front of feeling happy and liberated was to share this story.
Storytelling is one of the greatest ways we can choose to get some stuck energy out of our system. It helps us sort out our thoughts and how we feel about something. It initiates healing and activates connection with our heart.
So, my friend, take this as an invitation to know what you desire and how you will feel if the desire is actualized. Once you know what those feelings are ~ write down at least three actions you can take to anchor them. Hold each action up to the feeling and feel which one will actually give you the feeling you want to experience. For example, I had written down: buy a new outfit, go out on a self date, write about my breakthrough. Buying a new outfit felt good, but not wonderful. It was too much effort. Going out on a date would also require too much effort at that point, but writing felt really, really wonderful. Writing right then and there would make me feel happy and liberated.
Go for it! Give it a try! And even as you set goals, choose how you want to feel first, and then set actions that will match those feelings. You may feel, well, liberated!