Have you observed a three-year-old? They are constantly jumping and moving and asking. They defy your rules and they love watching your reactions. They usually take nothing personally; at least not my three-year-old daughter. They just purely EN-JOY what there is to enjoy.
Yes, you could say they are like teenagers, but you can still somewhat control them, even if you have to put them back on the chair 157 times! Teenagers, not only do they tend to be a little stronger then you (okay, I’m a believer that there IS hormone in their milk, even if the dairy farms swear otherwise,) but most teenagers don’t have the zest for life like three-year-olds do. And when they defy you, it’s not just to get your reaction; it’s to really prove that they know better than you do! Do you remember being a teenager? Yeah, I know… we take the “blue pill” (like in the movie Matrix) to forget everything prior to us becoming parents. If you’re lucky enough to remember and choose to cut your teen some slack, the chances are you’re much better off than the majority of teen parents. I actually heard once that the angriest people on the planet are parents of teens. Yikes!
So recently my beautiful, spunky, uninhibited, totally-social-three-year-old had an opportunity to show her super star acting skills. Awesome, right?!? I then get a text from my mom, who so generously drove 1 ½ hour each way to take her, saying that she completely did not follow directions and began to cry for mommy. Really?!? Is that even possible? Needless to say, the casting director sent her out and told my mom she didn’t have to come back inside. She was then as happy as she could possibly be.
That prompted my spinning, little brain to begin to think… Ok, maybe she was tired… Maybe she was cranky… Maybe this is not for her… I started to think about her fearless way of being (well, she is terrified of bugs) and her ability to defy the rules and say no to things that she doesn’t like or want. So the question that permeated my entire stinky brain (I’m really learning to emanate some nice smells from it when I put on my thinking cap, or better yet, when I allow my BEING to take over as opposed to my brain…) so I take back what I said… I allowed my BEING to do the asking, and what I got was… what if we could take on being more like three-year-olds? What if we chose to defy the rules for what was possible in our lives? What if we did that, not out of anger and the need to prove our worth, but out of a genuine curiosity to discover how infinite our choices and possibilities really were?
What would your life be like? What would my life be like? For one, I would trust myself so much more; I would create and generate more playfulness in my business and offer more fun and play for my clients; I would be always living in genuine curiosity – cool, so what’s next? What else is possible? I would say no to the things I don’t want or like and not judge myself for it.
So in the spirit of honoring my three-year-old, I take on the suggestions above… Yup, you can’t just give advice; you have got to live it too.
Next time you see a three-year-old jumping around, and, perhaps, annoying the living soul out of you, ask yourself, “What would it take for me and my body to live in the energy of this three-year-old?” Let me know what happens. 🙂
- I can use my voice – watch me!