Have you ever noticed how empty or meaningful words can be? Imagine you receive a letter from someone you love. The letter is filled with words that represent blame, anger, and bitterness. As you read the letter, you feel the intention and emotions with which it was written. These words now cause feelings within you that will most likely match the frequency vibration of the writer. Before you know it, you are feeling depressed, angered, betrayed.
Now let’s say you get a letter that is written filled with loving words, praise, and appreciation. In the same way as the above, you will be triggered; however, your experience may be completely different in which you will feel happiness, joy, and love.
That is why it is so important to choose the intentions behind your words with care, for your intentions expressed in your words carry weight and it can either uplift or bring down another or yourself.
When you speak with intention – consciously or unconsciously – you are making a declaration out into the ether which will reverberate and come right back to you.
We are constantly throwing words out there and not taking responsibility for what we say to others, and most importantly, to ourselves. But words are like boomerangs – they always come back to us.
So how do we keep our words as valuable as gold?
First key is to have awareness – are you aware of the intention behind the words you are speaking, writing, and thinking? When we are in constant state of awareness, we are better equipped to choose words that will empower ourselves and others.
Second key is to back your words with action – when we don’t do what we said we would do, it creates distrust. Not only do others distrust us, but we also distrust ourselves. Taking action on what we said we would do let’s others, and ourselves, know that we care and that we are accountable. It’s not that you can’t be flexible if something happens, but you are able to then communicate and choose a different course of action.
Third key is authenticity – this is when we can open ourselves up to speak and listen with our heart. This is often tricky as we have been conditioned to either say what we want another person to hear, or we get defensive when someone shares their feeling about something that is bothering them about us. When we can take a step back and take ownership of how we feel, we can speak without accusations and listen without our defenses. We can simply be with another from a space of understanding.
My invitation is for you to use your words as declarations. Are you making a loving declaration to yourself or are you declaring war on yourself? Practice using the three keys above and declare now that you will be more aware of your words; that you will take action on your words; and that you will be authentic in your speaking and listening.